Starting the conversation feels heavy, but it matters.
Conversations about memory problems can be difficult, and often come with fear, guilt, or denial for both the person experiencing changes and those who love them.
At Parc Provence, we help families navigate these discussions with compassion, honesty, and hope. It’s important to remember that introducing the idea of memory care isn’t a single conversation, it’s a series of ongoing talks built on trust and reassurance.
Starting the Conversation
Begin by focusing on your loved one’s comfort and well-being. Use reassuring and non-judgmental language. You might start by gently asking if they’ve noticed any changes about themselves recently or been feeling different than usual.
Are they struggling with anything? If appropriate, mention things you’ve noticed or examples that you’re concerned about. Statements like “I’ve noticed you seem tired lately” can open the door to discussion.
Avoid rushing decisions or overwhelming them with information. Small, consistent conversations can make the idea of extra support feel less intimidating and more collaborative.
When to Involve Others
If conversations stall or emotions run high, sometimes a neutral voice can help. A physician, counselor, or care professional can provide reassurance and perspective. At Parc Provence, our admissions team regularly joins family meetings to help explain options and answer questions in plain language.
If you’re in the St. Louis area, invite them to visit Parc Provence with you. We encourage families to schedule tours together and to meet our staff, observe activities, and see how personalized and comfortable memory care can be. Experiencing the environment firsthand can often ease anxiety.
You don’t have to have everything figured out before you reach out. Whether you’re gathering information or ready to schedule a personal tour, we’re here to listen and help.